The Perils of Pretty Privilege

The Perils of Pretty Privilege

“It’s how men see me. I’m not a smart girl or an interesting girl, I’m a pretty girl. The blonde and the boobs, it confuses guys into thinking I’m someone else.” 

  • Lizzie Stevens, Grey’s Anatomy

Pretty privilege works on the principle that people who are deemed more attractive—based on societal beauty standards—have an upper hand in the world and are afforded many opportunities that unattractive people don’t. 

Having a desirable appearance can open doors and increase a women’s dating pool but there is a dark side to this ‘privilege’ that is rarely discussed in the media. 

Sometimes being defined as the ‘pretty girl’ can hold you back,  being associated with prettiness often means that is the only defining characteristic of a girl/woman. 

I can be smart when it’s important, but most men don’t like it.” 

  • Lorelei Lee, Gentlemen Prefer Blondes 

Beauty is commonly connected to wickedness, this can be seen in how popular tropes with a pretty character are portrayed in media: 

  1. The gold digger: beautiful women must have ulterior motives and sinister intentions 
  2. The dumb blonde: pretty ladies are stupid 
  3. The femme fatale: women who leverage their attractiveness to exert power over men must be evil 

Ultimately, when people see a pretty girl, what they really see are preconceived culturally entrenched notions of what beauty represents, therefore dehumanizing women to a stereotype and discarding other personality traits they have. 

The Price of Prettiness: 

In Legally Blonde, Elle Woods is seen as a vacuous blonde before she proves everyone wrong as a bright student at Harvard Law. However, it is already established in the beginning of the movie that she is intelligent when she confronts a corrupt sales lady in a high-end department store. 

She didn’t change herself, she just showcased her intellect in a prestigious academic setting, which carries more weight in society. 

Another example of beauty being a setback for a woman can be found in Grey’s Anatomy. All three leading ladies of the original cast: Izzie Stevens, Cristina Yang & Meredith Grey are attractive.

 Nevertheless, Crisitina is described as a prodigy in cardiothoracic surgery and Meredith is from a medical dynasty. These attributes supersede the fact that they are beautiful, therefore making them more deserving of praise in the eyes of society. 

For Izzie, this luxury is not given as she is pigeonholed as the ‘pretty girl’ from the inception of the show. She has to constantly prove herself to her superiors, colleagues and patients that she is a capable doctor. The main reason Izzie experiences this level of ridicule is because she used to model lingerie in order to pay for medical school. She exploited her body to move up the socio-economic ladder, which would not be possible to achieve via the traditional route for Izzie who lived with her single mother in a trailer park. In the acclaimed TV show the intersectionality of beauty and class is exhibited in Izzie Stevens. Society grants the privilege of being beautiful and smart to women who come from financially stable families. 

Pretty & Dangerous: 

There has always existed a fear around beauty: pretty people have the power to lead  impressionable people down the wrong path. 

“Don’t you know that this creature called “fair and young” is more dangerous than the scorpion”

  • Socrates, Memorabilia (1.3.5-14)

In the media, the duplicitous ‘pretty girl’ can tempt the protagonist (male or female) away from the righteous path by using her beauty to hide their insidious intentions. 

These notions are amplified in the femme fatale who knowignly uses her beauty to hurt the main character. The 1940s noir films acted as cautionary tales to young men about beautiful women, which led to the femme fatales in these movies either married, imprisoned or jailed. 

The relationship society has with beauty is built on a brittle foundation, with society having the power to dehumanize pretty girls and beauty ability to seduce women and men. 

However, critical voices in popular culture question the superficiality of beauty and the longevity of pretty privilege may lose meaning in the upcoming generations. 

My name is Aikah Zungu. I am a 16-year-old girl living in Johannesburg, South Africa. South Africa is a beautiful country filled with diversity and rich culture. However, it is not a safe country to live in if you are a woman. South Africa has the highest rape statistics in the world. Living as a woman in my country is an extreme sport. From a young age, I was taught to stay vigilant, dress modestly and to never find yourself in a compromising position. The anxiety and fear that my upbringing forced upon is a bad habit I am un-learning each day. The only solace I had was the arts from writing to performing. I plan on bringing awareness to the unique issues the African woman faces. By joining SHEQUALITY, I now have a platform to communicate my thoughts and opinions to the world.